Update IV-Drama

By the post getting better, what I meant to say was that it would get worse for me but better for the readers.

So it turns out she thinks I’m cool but she’s afraid that she’ll hurt me and she doesn’t wanna lead me on. She’s afraid that since she’s in my social circle, if things go south it’ll end up making things awkward between us because I’ll always see her. This is all information relayed to me by my friend. She didn’t tell me this to my face, quite appalling from a 21 year old university educated girl. I find it quite sad that I have to find out how she feels about me through the grape vine. This isn’t high school. She just should’ve told me this herself.

After having lunch with my friend, he spilled the beans from his girlfriend once again and he told me that Christine thought what I said was very sassy and rude. Since we’re on the topic of rudeness, she’s the one who took 8 days to reply to my text and she replies with an eventual yes…I think that’s more rude than what I said. What she basically implied was that she wanted me to wait on her–hand and foot–while she made up her mind. There’s no way on earth it should take someone 8 days to reply, especially a girl. Also she managed to make me look like a bad guy when I’m really not, I didn’t do anything wrong.

My friend’s girlfriend already said she doesn’t wanna get caught in the middle of it and my buddy wasn’t even supposed to tell me what he told me. There’s nothing to get caught in the middle of, this isn’t a feud or a fight. Just a big misunderstanding that should blow over soon. Drama ensued. It’s actually quite funny.

My friend told me that I should just freeze her out and eventually she’ll come around. That’s my modus operandi for the moment. In other words, moving on. My romances are so short lived that I never get to enjoy them. This was over before it even began.

She’s a nice girl just horrible timing I guess.

Update III

Okay guys, this is a continuation from Update I. The girl I met at my friend’s girlfriend’s birthday party. Since I got her number, we haven’t stopped talking. I haven’t received this much female attention in a while. I’ve never met a girl who’s had the exact same interests in literature that I have so I thought she was very special. She reads Fitzgerald, Hemingway, Camus and Shakespeare for fun. Not only was she pretty, she was also really funny, easy going and cool. We have the same dry witty humour which most people don’t get. She was almost like a female version of myself. I started getting very beta about her and began thinking about her on a long-term basis and thought she could be the one for me. I know stupid right.

All of a sudden, she dropped a bombshell on me, she told me (via text) that she wasn’t looking for a relationship or anything serious right now and she wants to be single until she’s 30, she’s 21 now. Her last boyfriend was the biggest asshole in the world and that made her extremely bitter about guys. At this moment, I was shocked and knew that I probably wasn’t gonna date this girl seriously. She told me that not having to report to anyone is a luxury she doesn’t wanna give up anytime soon. She has a point I guess. I thought she could’ve been something special. Like most of my female experiences, this was hindered by bad timing. I’m very unlucky when it comes to women. Even if she doesn’t want a relationship, that doesn’t mean I can’t hookup with her or casually date her. That’s what all the cool kids are doing right?

I asked her out on a date and she said yes, however, she needed to check her work schedule and she’ll get back to me. A few days pass, she doesn’t get back to me and I ask her if she’s still interested in having lunch. She doesn’t respond to me for 8 days believe it or not. Anyways, she finally replies by saying, “I honestly can’t give you a definite date because I don’t know when I’m free since I’m waiting for appointments for my horse…so eventually yes.” It took her 8 days to reply with an eventually yes? Really that long? Oh well. I texted her saying, “Okay, just let me know, but if  you don’t get back to me, I’m assuming it’s a no.”

I didn’t mean to be so harsh in tone so the next day I texted her saying something to the effect of, “I didn’t mean to come off as rude or crass at all.” She still hasn’t gotten back to me. I didn’t expect her to unless she wants to see me.

Things get better in the next post.

 

Update II

Last week I went to a sorority party with a few friends. The girl that firend zoned me–Catherine–also happened to be there. It was a good night because there were tons of hot girls. I made the mistake of talking to Catherine for a majority of the night…

After realizing my mistake I went to talk to other girls and I began getting positive feedback and realized that these girls are actually pretty cool, albeit some of them are really stupid. Although most of these girls were drunk and already had boyfriends, I managed to connect with two girls specifically.

The first one was probably one of the hottest girls at the party. She was from Iraq. When I first laid eyes on her, I thought she was mixed or from some Mediterranean country. She was the hottest Middle Eastern girl I’ve ever seen. It’s quite interesting actually, I probably would’ve never been able to approach a girl of her calibre three years ago but I’m doing it now. Her name was Dahlia. Before talking to her I thought she was going to be a conceited bitch because she was hot. I also thought she wasn’t intelligent. Turns out she has a degree in Neuroscience and she just had her first paper published. Astonishing. During our conversation, she abruptly mentions that she has a boyfriend and he was also at the party. I saw her going up to him afterwards. Darn.

The second girl had long brown hair and nice fair skin. I don’t remember if she has green or hazel eyes, but regardless that’s a moot point. Her name was Jessica. She was Canadian but looked like she had Eastern European roots. We started talking and I started asking her questions about her life as usual. She’s a psych major but wants to be a nurse. She’s really hot. Her abnormally long hair and slender physique really turned me on. Anytime I looked at her figure, I got a rush of blood. I don’t remember how the conversation ended but it did and we went our separate ways. It was a house party so I knew I would get her number eventually. Catherine, the girl who basically didn’t wanna date me was hoping that I got her number and tried to set us up surprisingly. Catherine, seeing that I was texting another girl, asked me if I was seeing someone or if there’s someone special in my life. Why does she care? I thought she didn’t wanna date me…

As Jessica was on her way out of the party, I realized that this would be the perfect time to get her number. I went up to her, told her it was nice meeting her, she said the same thing and hugged me. She told me that I should add her on facebook. I said she should just give me her number. She did.

I texted her at the end of the night when I got home at about 4:30 am saying, “Hey Jessica, it was nice meeting you. I hope you and your friends got home safe.”

She didn’t reply. I knew I had no chance with a hot sorority girl.

 

Update I

Hey, I’m sorry for not posting more often guys. I’ve been very busy with final exams, after I finished, I literally just slept for a week.

Now that that’s over, I’ve got to update you on my endeavours. The last time I met someone was a few weeks ago at my friend’s girlfriend’s birthday party. It was at a club and we had a VIP booth, bottle service etc. It was a fun night, I wasn’t really expecting to meet anybody to be honest, just going to have fun and enjoy myself. It turns out that when you’re least expecting to meet someone, that’s when you actually do find someone. Ironic how life works. This girl is my friend’s girlfriend’s best friend so that’s how we met.

She’s attractive, well-read, well-spoken and very cool. After I met her, I actually didn’t wanna meet any other girls at the club. Yup, she was that cool. I didn’t have to use game on her or anything of that sort. I just talked to her like an average human being and I discovered that we have the same traits and we hit it off from there. I will be updating you on her shortly. In brief, I think she’s borderline amazing.

The Renaissance Man

This is a spirited post because my best friend told me that his dad’s girlfriend told him that she likes me because I’m very well mannered and behaved. She’s a very nice person herself, I guess kindred spirits recognize each other. People always say I’m well behaved, mannered and have perfect etiquette etc. This all came from the study of renaissance men and men in the proverbial court, such as Baldassare Castiglione. When I was younger, I was the rudest person you could ever meet, I thought being an asshole was cool for some reason. The Romans thought that only men could be virtuous. In fact the word virtue itself comes from the Latin word vertus and the prefix of the word is ver which is the Latin word for man, so the prefix already presupposes that notion. I’m a genuinely nice person so being well mannered comes easy to me. My behaviours are the outward expressions of my soul. I’ve broken down my behaviour into several minute facets which can be modeled by anybody. This post isn’t gonna be a big hit with the manosphere and most guys because I know being narcissistic and arrogant is what’s cool and what gets you girls but I feel that there aren’t many good people left so I felt the need to write this. I believe you should be nice to everyone because you never know when you’re gonna need them. The person you cut off in traffic and stuck the finger at might end up being your waitress tonight when you go out for dinner. Just hope she doesn’t spit on your food. Remember not everybody deserves respect but everyone deserves civility.

1) Etiquette- Being well mannered, civil and considerate; not because you’re trying to impress, but because your maintaining decency and decorum.

2) Oratory- I don’t mean public speaking or Greek rhetoric, I mean the art of conversation. Knowing what to say and when to say it. Not offending someone and not excessively flattering them to the point of embarrassment. Every word needs to be studied and calculated before you utter it.

3) Demeanour- Studied grace. This is your overall presence and the aura you exude to people. Before you open your mouth, everyone has already judged you on the way you carry yourself. Are you charismatic or off colour? Walk with a straight posture, chin up and chest outward.

4) Chivalry- Courtliness which does not exclude gallantry and generosity. Don’t put women on a pedestal but treat them with kindness and respect (the ones who deserve it).

5) Integrity- Soundness of moral character. It’s knowing the difference between what’s wrong and right, and choosing what’s right because it’s the right thing to do. Doing the right thing has its own intrinsic value and reward. A good synonym is virtue.

6) Humility- Accept glimmering success with modesty and failure with grace.

7) Charm- “Getting the answer yes, without having asked any real question” – Albert Camus

8) Beauty- Let’s go beyond the genetic God-given looks. It’s about being well dressed and well groomed. Polishing off rough edges, highlighting strengths and hiding weaknesses.