I’d like to share a story (albeit without his permission) about my friend Matthew that’s indicative of women’s sexual hypergamy and primacy. My friend Matthew has been dating this girl–we’ll call her Samantha–for about 3.5 years on and off. This is his first girlfriend, first kiss and first fuck. The on and off nature of the relationship has been stimulated by Samantha’s promiscuity, she cheated on my friend Matthew several times. First time was a kiss, second time was a blowjob and third time was sex; you get the point. These are the ones that he knows about mind you. My friend still took her back because she apologized and promised him she’ll never do it again. As if.
My friend is 22 years old, Samantha is 20 years old. They met at a party 3.5 years ago and they’ve been dating on and off since (until last month that is). My friend is innocent, naive and beta. A typical nice guy. He thinks that he found the right girl, his soul mate–”the one.” Yuck. For some of her promiscuity, my friend had to find out from the grapevine, for others, she came clean in tear filled confessions.
What gets interesting about this is that in September, Samantha told my friend Matthew that she loves him, he’s the best she’ll ever do (which is probably true) and she wants to marry my friend in the long-term and have a family with him. I’ve heard this too many times. She even introduced the idea of them moving in together when they’re finished university. My friend believed all this and reciprocated her false feelings. She was clinging on to my friend because she knows she’ll never do better than him. This girl is capricious, immature and promiscuous among other things. A girl I would not date myself.
They’ve been having sex the whole time, but all of a sudden, she says that she doesn’t wanna have sex with my friend anymore because she wants to wait for marriage and be a good Catholic. Excuse me? My friend reluctantly agrees of course. Do you notice a pattern here? The whole relationship is being dictated on her terms, not my friend’s, and he’s the man!
Our friend is telling us all this during dinner while we try to dissuade him. We tell him he should dump her and move on, otherwise she’ll cheat on him again. All to no avail. Several weeks later Matthew tells us that Samantha had sex with two other guys, she confessed herself. So she was prohibiting sex from my friend but was giving it up elsewhere? She wanted to have the long-term security she could get from my friend but also wanted to fulfill her sexual desires at the same time. That’s essentially what she was getting for the past three and a half years. Like most women in western society these days, she got to have her cake and eat it too!
My friend isn’t alpha so that’s why she’s prohibiting sex from him while give it up to other good looking dominant men. All she sees my friend as is an ATM machine (my friend isn’t rich) that can give her what her and her future offspring want/need. In return she’ll donate shitty sex to my friend once in a while. Matthew is the kind of guy that will go all out on valentine’s day just because society and big corporations tell him that’s what he needs to do to prove to his girlfriend that he loves her. If he’s lucky enough she might reward him with unsatisfactory sex that night–”good boy.”
No wonder she kept mentioning things like marriage, moving in together, and love. She was planning for her future, not his. Women are selfish pragmatists.
Deus Ex Machina 