I’m still new at this, so this was the best of the worst I guess. At school, my wingman and I sarged for about an hour. I decided to wear high value clothes because I realized girls respond to me better when I’m well dressed. I don’t peacock or anything. We walk around campus looking for sets for about 15 minutes. I saw a couple of sets but I was making excuses once again. It seemed like every girl I saw had headphones on or was talking on the phone. You don’t really realize how much technology has ruined interpersonal communication until you actually go sarging; it’s quite sad. I see HB7 sitting on bench with headphones on and she’s using her MacBook. Looks like it would be a good approach but I decide not to since she has headphones on and there is a group of guys sitting around her general vicinity. I know one of them, so I don’t want to fail in front of someone I know, even though I barely know him. So we keep walking around…
I see HB7 Italian chick [her name is Sarah] sitting on a bench waiting for her class to start. She’s a petite Italian girl with fair skin, brunette and very nice hazel eyes. Had a very innocent look to her. I approach:
Me: Hey, do you mind if I sit here?
Her: Yea sure, go ahead
Me: Hey, I was just walking by and I saw you and I had to come by and say hi because I think you’re really cute…
Her: [Blushing] Oh…thanks
Me: I’m Sam by the way
Her: I’m Sarah
Me: Nice to meet you. So are you waiting for class?
Her: Yes I am. It’s social psychology…
Me: Oh so you’re a psych. Major?
So we end up talking for about 15 minutes surprisingly. She was very receptive to the whole thing, which I didn’t see happening. Recapturing the whole interaction would be difficult for me because I don’t remember everything that was discussed and it would be tedious. I discovered that she wants to be a nurse and is majoring in Kinesiology and minoring in Psychology. We talk about all sorts of things, some random and inane. I realized after the interaction I barely teased and only made her laugh on a few occasions. I could tell that she was keen because of her strong eye contact, good body language and she did not try to leave or make up an excuse to leave (ex. I have to get back to my friends). She was also very inquisitive about me and kept restarting the conversation the very few times that it died. These were clear IOIs. I’m a conversationalist and tend to get sidetrack by good conversation so I didn’t really notice how much time I spent with her. The interaction was about 15 minutes long. I should’ve created a false time constraint so I can go for the number close and leave. But I had to learn that the hard way. This fat, ugly, bitch (aka her friend) comes by and they start briefly talking. Her friend is also in this class and is who she was waiting for. All of a sudden:
Sarah: Hey, I have to go to class now but it was nice talking to you
Me: [confused look on my face] Oh…do you have a bf? [I don’t know why I asked this]
Sarah: Thinks for a bit then hesitantly says,” Yes”
Me: [disappointed look on my face] Oh that’s unfortunate. It was nice talking to though. Enjoy your class
Her friend was already trying to gravitationally pull her away from me by walking away and urging her friend to follow. It seemed as if Sarah didn’t want to…
What I should have said was: You should give me your # and we will go out for coffee sometime. Assertive, bold and decisive.
Inexperience is a cruel beast and it can attack at any time. It happened to be on the prowl at the most pivotal moment in the set. I think I opened strongly, went to rapport too early, but still good enough to obtain comfort and reach the hook-point [this is when you stop trying so hard conversationally. She will carry the conversation and start talking to you like someone she’s known for months]. Besides shaking her hand when I first met her, I did not kino at all. Another beginner mistake I guess. I left the set with a bitter taste in my mouth and now wondering what would’ve happened if I just asked for her # or wrapped up the interaction before her friend arrived.
p.s. I asked her how often she gets approached and she started blushing and told me it happens more than I would think it does. She says she gets cold approached all the time, mostly on the bus. This is very interesting because I learned that 6s and 7s get approached all the time but 8s, 9s and 10s barely get approached. Bar Raffaelli has said that she NEVER gets approached at all.
never gets approached at all
Learning points:
-don’t waste time by being in sets for too long. If you are going to do that, you might as well just go for an idate. Logistics didn’t permit me for this set.
-Always ask for the #, you never know what might happen.
-Don’t ask her if she has a boyfriend because that gives her plausible deniability. You’re giving her the chance to lie and reject you.
Deus Ex Machina 
